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Date: March 09, 2007 01:03AM
Subject: The difference between Men and Women
Let's say a guy named Roger is attracted to a woman named Elaine. He
asks her out to a movie: she accepts: they have a pretty good time. A
few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again, they enjoy
themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while
neither one of them is seeing anybody else.
And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to
Elaine, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: "Do you realize
that, as of tonight, we've been seeing each other for exactly six
months?" And then there is silence in the car.
To Elaine, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself:
Geez, I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been
feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push
him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want or isn't sure of.
And Roger is thinking; Gosh, six months.
And Elaine is thinking: but hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind of
relationship either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I'd
have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way
we are, moving steadily toward.... I mean, where are we going? Are we
just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we
heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am
I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?
And Roger is thinking; So, that means it was....let's see.. February
when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the
dealer's, which means.. let me check the odometer..Whoa! I am way
overdue for an oil change here.
And Elaine is thinking: He's upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I'm
reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our
relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed, even
before I sensed it, that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet
that's it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything about his own
feelings. He's afraid of being rejected.
And Roger is thinking: And I'm going to have them look at the fucking
transmission again. I don't care what those morons say, it's still not
shifting right.
And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What
cold weather? It's 87 degrees and this thing is shifting like a garbage
truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.
And Elaine is thinking: He's angry. And I don't blame him. I'd be angry
too. I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can't help the way I
feel. I'm just not sure.
And Roger is thinking: They'll probably say it's only a 90-day
warranty..scumballs.
And Elaine is thinking: Maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a
knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next
to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I
truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person
who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.
And Roger is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I'll give them a
warranty. I'll take their warranty and stick it right up their......
"Roger," Elaine says aloud.
What? says Roger, startled.
Please don't torture yourself like this, she says, her eyes beginning
to brim with tears, "Maybe I should never have...Oh God, I feel so..
(she breaks down, sobbing.)
"What?" says Roger.
"I'm such a fool," Elaine sobs. "I mean, I know there's no knight. I
really know that. It's silly. There's no knight, and there's no horse."
"There's no horse?" says Roger.
"You think I'm a fool, don't you?" Elaine says.
"No!" says Roger, glad to finally know the correct answer.
"It's just that.. it's that I.. I need some time," Elaine says.
There is a 15-second pause while Roger, thinking as fast as he can,
tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that
he thinks might work.
"YES" HE SAYS.
Elaine, deeply moved, touches his hand. "Oh Roger, do you really feel
that way?" she says.
"What way?" says Roger.
"That way about time," says Elaine.
"Oh", says Roger. "Yes."
Elaine turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to
become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it
involves a horse. At last she speaks.
"Thank you Roger," she says.
"Thank you" says Roger.
Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured
soul, and weeps until dawn.
When Roger gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turn on
the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a tennis
match between two Czechoslovakians he never heard of. A tiny voice in
the far recesses of his mind tells him something major was going on back
there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever
understand that, and so, he figures it's better if he doesn't think
about it.
The next day Elaine will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of
them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In
painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything
he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word,
expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every
possible ramification. They will continue to discuss this subject, off
and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite
conclusions, but never getting bored with it either.
Meanwhile, Roger, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend
of his and Elaine's will pause just before serving, frown, and say,
"Norm, did Elaine ever own a horse?"
And that's the difference between men and women.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/03/2007 01:13AM by 90130_.