The prevailing thing in raising kids these days seems to be telling the kids to just be themselves, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, and you are valuable no matter who you are. I think those things are true but somehow when one gets into the real world that stuff just doesn't apply if you want to continue to eat and have a shelter to sleep in. And then there's the war on bullying, again a worthwhile thing until one gets to the workplace and wishes to continue receiving a paycheck. In over 30 years of working for a living I was fired only one time after being at that job for over ten years for refusing to further assist a bullying customer after patiently listening to his bullshit for several minutes. The disparity between what we should be teaching our kids and how things really work when you're an adult is frightening.