If hero worship by children regarding their parents is signified as brainwashing without really delineating the scenario to a greater degree I'd say that's a generalization based so broadly as to itself be fallacious, and certainly deleterious to the concept of the family unit in a very unreasonable way.

Regarding the video series linked above there are several glaring misdirections, half truths, incorrect allusions and definite agendization of the subject matter that make this info every bit as suspect as the "untold truths" they claim to be revealing.

All in all, war is hell on earth, leads to injury and/or death, and not all of those are going to be by combatants only, but it IS a part of it all that can never truly be eliminated.

For another take on how such things play out you might wanna talk to a recent group of US marines dropped into a hot spot in Afganistan behind the lines who had to watch the Afgans nearly completely encircle them and could only watch and wait for the inevitable since they were not allowed to fire until they were fired upon. Of course the Afgans know this too, so they took up positions 270 degrees around them before they ever fired that 1st shot which then allowed the US troops to return fire.

Having said all that, yes war should be a last resort option to end any conflict, but if you undertake it any fashion except with an "at all costs" ideology in how you wage it, even more lives will be lost. "When it comes to war, if you find yourself in a fair fight, your tactics are obviously flawed."

In truth, in a perfect world, military action would never be necessary. But, last time I checked the world was not a perfect place, and I don't see any movement towards making it any more perfect either, so ....