Violence in relationships is absolutely a 2 sided conversation with roots and consequences on both sides of the fence.

I spent quite a long while lately reading on this very issue and found some very interesting studies/data regarding abusive behavior (instigated and perpetrated) by the fairer sex, also the lack of funding available to study anything but male on female abuse. It seems in this realm as in many others the squeeky wheel gets the grease and men by nature aren't wired to often fear, worry or complain about abuse by mates while women do, so ...

The typical reply from a cop hearing a male relate to them about abusive behavior by their mates will often be along the lines of "so what ... were you in fear of that she might actually hurt you or something ?"

Conversely, the reply when hearing a female relate any instance of abusive behavior by their male mates is usually "Put your hands behind your back, you're being placed under arrest."

Abuse is abuse no matter who the perpetrator is but the law seldom gets applied equally to both genders. SSDD